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What do people who are sick and dying talk about?

They talk about the love they felt, and the love they gave. Often they talk about love they did not receive, or the love they did not know how to offer, the love they withheld, or maybe never felt for the ones they should have loved unconditionally……they call out to their parents: Mama, Daddy, Mother.

We don’t live our lives in our heads, in theology and theories. We live our lives in our families: the families we are born into, the families we create, the families we make through the people we choose as friends.

When the love is imperfect, or a family is destructive, something else can be learned: forgiveness. The spiritual work of being human is learning how to love and how to forgive.

Easier said than done I know. Yet by forgiving our parents and family, (forgive doesn’t mean forget…),we forgive ourselves and that’s what most important.

If you are not talking to one of your parents or both, pick up the phone, send a letter, an email or better pay a visit, for once they are gone you will be left with remorses…

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